How to mentally and emotionally overcome a divorce?

Make no mistake about it. Even under the best circumstances, divorce is daunting. You will be challenged spiritually, mentally and emotionally. And you'll likely have some degree of anxiety when it comes to your future finances, too .

Guess what'. In the context of divorce, all of these feelings are completely normal. As suggested by a well-known Verona matrimonial lawyer : "you must accept the fact that divorce represents a change".

And change, even if you consider it positive, is never easy. But change can also represent renewed hope for the future once you work your way through a range of emotions.

But how is it done? What exactly will you experience? And what do you need to do to mentally and emotionally get over a divorce?

Here are some tips on how to get over a divorce:

Realize that the feeling of “grieving” is normal

Depending on the nature, length, and type of relationship you have had with your spouse, you may feel that a part of your identity will be gone when they get divorced. The label you had as “husband” or “wife” will no longer apply. For now, and perhaps for many years to come, you will be only one person.

It's not only okay to mourn the loss of those labels and your relationship with your spouse, it's completely normal.

In fact, have a good cry (or several) to help you process the anger and sadness you feel about the loss of your relationship.

Recognize that it will take some time

Going through a divorce is a process…and it's more like a marathon than a 100-meter dash.

The intense feelings of love and joy you felt when you fell in love and got married will take some time to dissipate as you resolve your situation.

If you try to go too fast, you are likely to repress the feelings you need to process to help yourself heal. Progress will be incremental. Go at your own pace and understand that there will be setbacks. Divorce can be an emotional roller coaster.

The speed at which you heal will be different from well-meaning friends who try to rush you or compare your divorce to theirs.

Don't face it alone.

You may feel ashamed, sad, and embarrassed about seeking the support of others to help you through this stage of your life.

But friends will intervene to bridge the gap. They will be there when you just want to argue about things. They will take time to listen to you and offer encouragement when you need it most.

They will help you release your anger. It may be difficult for you, but you should take the risk of sharing your feelings with friends and family. It's healthy. You can also join a support group or even seek out a mental health professional to help you put things into perspective and begin your path to recovery.

Be kind to yourself.

Fight the feeling of placing all the blame for your divorce on yourself. Healing will be hard enough without making you your own worst enemy.

Instead, do things that will nourish your soul, nourish you, and set you on a positive path. You'll probably have more freedom than ever, so take walks on the beach , read all those great books you've been wanting to curl up with, go dancing with your friends, take up a hobby like playing the guitar, tennis, photography, or anything that makes you feel good that you held back.

Improving your self-esteem is essential at this time in your life.

Take care of yourself physically.

If you are depressed, the refrigerator could turn into your best friend and every step you take could be tiring unless you decide to take care of your physical self as well as your mental self.

Physical activity releases endorphins, and endorphins relieve tension , anger and anxiety.

You can also get active by finding a running buddy, making friends at the gym, or any way to engage with others in a positive process.